20 things you need to know on World Autism Awareness Day

20 things you need to know on World Autism Awareness Day

 It’s World Autism Awareness Day!

Social media is full of people lighting it up blue, multi-colours, having tattoos, or taking part in fundraisers.

This is all fantastic, I’m a big supporter of all of this. Awareness is a fantastic start, but this needs to be the first step. It’s easy to be aware of something without really understanding it, and understanding and acceptance has to be the bigger goal.

Back in 2009 I had no real idea of what autism was. I knew it was a disability and I’d seen Rain Man, that was it. I’d never met anyone who was autistic and I never expected it to play any part in my life.

The year before, my first son, Jude was born, and I was happily settling into fatherhood. By the time Jude was 18 months old he had been diagnosed with autism. Three years later, my second son, Tommy, would also be diagnosed, again at 18 months old.

Autism quickly became part of our everyday life. It became our normal.

To celebrate World Autism Awareness Day, here’s 20 things that I’ve learnt about autism over the last few years that I think are important everyone should know.

They’re all from my point of view as a parent of 2 autistic children, what I have learnt from them, and what I have learnt from others in the autism community on our journey.

1. Autism is a developmental disability that affects how a person communicates with and relates to others.

This might lead to them being seen as anti-social, which isn’t always the case. They may find it difficult to express what they need and how they feel, which can make life extremely challenging at times

2. Autism is a spectrum.

Whilst everyone with a diagnosis will share some common traits, autism will affect them in different ways. Everybody is different. This may make it more difficult to understand, but it’s very important you do. Treat everyone with autism as you would anyone else, as individuals

3. You cannot tell a person has autism just by looking at them.

Autism is what is sometimes called an ‘invisible’ disability. There is not a certain look. Telling someone “oh you don’t look autistic” is not a good thing to say

4. Autism can affect how a person is able to make sense of the world around them.

This confusion can cause anxiety and behaviours you might feel are strange. Be patient. Try to understand.

5. Not everyone with autism has a ‘special’ ability like Rain Man.

Please don’t assume they do. When someone tells you their son has autism, don’t ask them “ah, ok, are they really good at maths?”

6. Nobody knows the cause of autism.

Lot’s of people say they do. There are hundreds of theories out there, but nobody has a definitive answer. What causes autism is not the most important thing. How we accept and enhance the lives of people with autism is.

7. Hollywood and TV portrayals are not always true

What you see on tv or in films is what it is like for one person with autism. It is not always accurate (although recently much better), so try to realise that everybody’s story is different

8. Somebody having a meltdown is not the same as someone misbehaving.

There is a difference. During a meltdown a person loses control of their feelings and actions. A meltdown can often lead to self-harming or self-injurious behaviours. Getting angry and frustrated with someone when they do this does not help, what they really need is compassion. Telling someone they should teach their child how to behave is probably the worst thing you can do.

9. Some people prefer to be talked of as ‘having autism.’ Some prefer to be described as ‘autistic.’

You should always defer to their choice of language. If in doubt call someone by their name, I’ve found this to always be the best!

10. Try to see the person, not just the disability.

Every person with autism wants you to know they are more than just a diagnosis. They are individuals who should be treated accordingly.

11. If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism.

What might apply to that person you already know, might be the complete opposite for somebody else. Just like the rest of the world, every autistic person is unique and should be treated that way

12. Many people with autism have problems sleeping.

Trust me I know. Often it is due to a problem with the production of the sleep hormone melatonin. Bedtime routines that work for neurotypical children don’t always work. Sleep is so, so important for both the child and the parent, finding a way to make things better is crucial.

13. Stimming is ok.

Stimming means self-stimulation, and is used to describe behaviours that someone with autism may display at times, such as flapping, bouncing, rocking back and forth. Don’t try and force someone to stop their ‘stims.’ They help to provide extra input, or block out sensory input when the world is overwhelming. It can be soothing, and allow a person to self-regulate, and find their place in the world. It might not be behaviour that you think is normal, but it’s important for the person who is stimming. Embrace the ‘stim’

14. Making friends can be difficult for someone who is autistic.

Different behaviours and interests can mean that a child or adult with autism can easily be excluded. Be nice, be understanding. Try to teach your children to be the same. Having a friend can make such a difference.

15. Not all people with autism are able to speak.

Roughly 25% of those diagnosed may never talk. This doesn’t mean that they don’t have a voice and it certainly doesn’t mean their world is a quiet one. You should never assume incompetence due to a lack of words. They are able to listen and understand more than you know, so please talk to them too. Love needs no words. Finding a way to communicate with someone without using verbal language can be the most beautiful thing you’ll ever do.

16. Autism can mean at times the world is overwhelming to a person’s senses.

Sights, sounds, touch, smells, that you might feel are normal can all be too much. The processing of these senses can be very different to you or I. This can trigger meltdowns when out in public places. Try and be aware, and rather than staring see if you can help. This video will help you understand a bit more

17. Not all therapies work

There are hundreds, if not thousands of different therapies out there for someone with autism. What works for one person, doesn’t always work for another. Whilst a pet might calm and soothe one person, for another it might be petrifying. A gluten-free diet might work for someone, but not for somebody else. If it hasn’t sunk in yet I’ll say it again. Everybody is different.

18. Routine is important for someone with autism 

Knowing what’s coming next can relieve any anxiety they are feeling. However, the ability to be flexible is important too. Trying to find the right balance is the key.

19. Autism is nobody’s fault.

It’s not due to bad parenting, something that you did during pregnancy, or something that happened after they were born. If you’re a parent stop beating yourself up and wasting any more time feeling guilty. Stop worrying about the cause, and focus on what difference you can make to someone with autism’s life now.

20.People with autism want just what everyone else wants.

Love and acceptance

Happy World Autism Awareness Day! Now let’s work on greater acceptance and understanding for everyone on the autism spectrum

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7 Comments

  1. April 2, 2016 / 5:18 pm

    Excellent post – all of these points are valid.

    • James Hunt
      Author
      April 5, 2016 / 11:21 pm

      Thank you Thomas 🙂

  2. April 3, 2016 / 11:10 pm

    Yes yes yes!! Totally agree with all of these; this is a great list, succinct and perfect to help understanding for those without direct contact with autism.

    • James Hunt
      Author
      April 5, 2016 / 11:22 pm

      Thank you Steph 🙂

  3. April 5, 2016 / 8:26 am

    Yes!! Such a great list for anyone wanting to know more about autism #SpectrumSunday

    • James Hunt
      Author
      April 5, 2016 / 11:26 pm

      Thank you Amanda 🙂

  4. April 11, 2016 / 1:31 pm

    I love this James! I especially like point 19. I am all too guilty of that! And of course number 20! Thank you for linking up to #spectrumsunday I hope you come by again this week. After a laptop malfunction (I spilt my wine) the linky will be live later today xx